India: What are things that make Indians sad?

India: What are things that make Indians sad? by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati

Answer by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati:

Son, you should become be an IAS Officer because I have never got to be one in my life.

A cousin of mine just passed class XII. He came to my home for some suggestions on undergraduate major preferences.

He said that there was a fight in his home this morning as his father was telling him to become an IAS. The rationale behind being

I always wanted to become one but couldn’t because of circumstances. But you should do it”.

I know him as a hardworking, smart guy. He is expecting a top 300 rank in JEE and is about get admission to premiere institutes in India.

It just make me sad when Indian parents make such strong prejudiced impressions on their children even before letting them explore their interests in college.

Hem

India: What are things that make Indians sad?

What are some things that Indian parents don’t realize about their children?

What are some things that Indian parents don’t realize about their children? by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati

Answer by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati:

  • You choose their Profession.
    • You don’t realize you are killing a painter, an athlete, a statesman, a sportsman, a dancer in your child.
  • You choose their spouse.
    • You don’t realize that they are capable enough to find one. The odds of a failed marriage are as good in either case.
  • You expect them to take the road often travelled. You crave them to be one in a billion.
    • You don’t realize the paradox here.
  • You give more importance to result than the deed.
    • You don’t realize their hard work and myriad thoughts in their brain. Ironically you realize the suicide of a child in the newspaper next day.
  • You can’t stand neighbour’s child performing better than yours.
    • You don’t realize constant harry with comparison does more harm than good.
  • You tell them what to do, what not, everything.
    • You don’t realize you won’t be always there to tell them. You don’t realize your children are capable of discretion. You don’t realize they should learn to learn from their mistakes. You don’t realize your child has become an adult.

You don’t realize you are not letting them live..,

NOTE: Parental guidance is necessary. But anything in excess is harmful to individual/society. Just stating the fact, not all Indian parents are alike.

Hem

What are some things that Indian parents don’t realize about their children?

Which is the sentence that inspired you a lot in your life?

Which is the sentence that inspired you a lot in your life? by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati

Answer by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati:

You told yourself it’s stupid, you said it’s impossible, you daydream about the result, you wake up from a nightmare, you felt it’s out of your league.

But you want to hit it, as hard as you can. You don’t care if your knuckles are broken.

Your parents told you no one has ever done that before, they asked you for the odds, they reproached you, they lost confidence in you.

But it burns you to give up.

You let that random guy passing by laugh at you, you let your friends talk about your stupidity on your back, you let your colleagues think you are mad, they said it isn’t there in you.

But you want to give it all you have got, thinking one more time for every setback.

If you’re not living on the edge, you are taking too much space

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Hem

Which is the sentence that inspired you a lot in your life?

Why do most IITians prefer Computer Science to other branches?

Why do most IITians prefer Computer Science to other branches? by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati

Answer by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati:

I am a BTech Computer Science (3rd Year) at IIT Madras and here I write the probable reasons of me and my friends to opt this branch.

1. Computer science is a branch where your commonsense and intuitions are valued way more than your mugged knowledge.

2. Instant Rewards… Are you good at coding?… then participate in a programming contest and grab awesome(believe me) prizes.

3. Neither Electrical nor Mechanical or any other branch students can immediately apply their knowledge in real life because they have to learn way more and have to gain experience before they could really help people in their daily lives But…
The pride we feel helping our friends, parents and relatives with their computer issues is unmatchable.

4. You don’t need great equipment to experiment with various new things you learn, all you need is a laptop… And you don’t have to worry about any adverse consequences the worst you could get is a reboot.

5. You can say to people that you are working at flipkart, Microsoft, google, twitter, Quora etc., whose services most people use everyday.

6. And of course you will be rewarded with handsome salary packages!!!

P.S: I mean offence to no one.

Why do most IITians prefer Computer Science to other branches?

How would you spend the last days of your college?

How would you spend the last days of your college? by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati

Answer by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati:

I came home 2 days ago after completing my last semester (Jan-April) at IIT Madras. Convocation is usually scheduled in the month of July, so I will be officially graduating then.

TL; DR.

Absorb everything around with all your senses

Last semester has been quite an emotional one for me. People say the friends you make in college last a life time. I am friends with around 100(yeah, I used to keep in touch with almost all of them!!!) in college. The feeling that you might not be able to meet many of your friends who have been your dearest for four years of college sucks. But it helps in identifying the people who you really miss, for whom you would travel 500 miles just to spend a couple of hours. Keep your Ears open and listen more to your friends, you might get one last perspective either reinforcing or contradicting to your earlier one.

I will always remember college for all the cheap and quality food. In the last semester I tasted almost all the varieties available inside the campus and I never missed a chance to try out various good restaurants available across the city. I have also tried food of different cuisines available inside and outside the campus.

Most of the colleges are well maintained and have lot of greenery inside the campus. So make sure you roam around every nook and corner of your campus. I am fortunate enough to live in 600 acres of greenery. There are too many avenues, cross roads, play grounds, stadiums, theatre halls, pools, lakes etc., I remember many times sleeping in the lawns (shown below) after a lot of cycling across the campus, all exhausted. Such a moonlit night is something worth looking at. Do not miss any such moments, usually the peacefulness you get inside the campus isn’t very abundant outside.

Everyone of us have a lot of secrets hidden deep in us. You always wanted to tell few of them to some very close people but you couldn’t. This is the time to speak your heart out to the people worthy of it. Usually I go out for dinner by walk and in groups to the local restaurants during which each one of us spoke about our childhood memories. I came to know many things about my friends which I didn’t know for four years!!!

Because of tight schedule you may not have experienced all the things happening in your campus before. But in the last semester you might have to put studies aside (at the same time not letting it damage your career heavily) and do things you have always wanted to do. I have signed up for Yoga, Swimming and Piano. By the end of semester I am able to swim 1KM in 1hr:15min(from a guy who was afraid of getting into water), well prepared for a Grade 1 Piano exam and a guy who could run 8.83KM in 40min with zero stops in between.

Take a moment to say good bye to the people who you really miss. A quote from the Life of Pi movie shown below sums it up aptly. During the last week I could send emails to some of my closest friends, containing what I liked the most about them and some advice/motivation that would help them in achieving what they really wanted in their lives.

-Hem

How would you spend the last days of your college?

What is wrong with engineering courses in India?

What is wrong with engineering courses in India? by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati

Answer by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati:

Disclaimer: This answer can be specific to Computer Science at IITs.

Unlike many answers, In most of the courses I have taken, its highly unlikely to get a good grade by just mugging the course content. Every course required us to put a lot of work outside classroom because of quizzes/semester examinations, assignments, surprise tests, course-projects etc., If you don’t pay attention in the class you will have to double that effort. Also most of the courses I have taken are very informative and deal with a wide variety of latest technologies. Though I am little worried about a few outdated professors that’s not my key concern here.

An average undergraduate CS student at IITM does way more courses per semester than a similar undergrad from world class universities like Stanford. This seems to be a good thing as we would be equipped with a greater breadth of knowledge. However, during my journey I have understood that it’s harming creative minds in many ways.

Students doesn’t get enough time to explore the new ideas, they jump into conclusions immediately after being reminded of a deadline to be submitted by that night. We might be able to understand and apply various techniques proposed in the literature but to create something novel we need to explore the uncharted territories, we need to try and fail even if it is for a thousand times. And, for all that time investment is a must.

I just can’t image what could have happened to Mark Zuckerberg at Stanford or Bill Gates at Harvard if they haven’t had enough time to think through their ideas. Not only is this having a serious impact on IITs but also on the future of India.

As my favourite professor always say

Think. Don’t just do. Set aside time to explore ideas. Thinking is more important than reading.

-Hem

What is wrong with engineering courses in India?

What is the best advice you’ve received?

What is the best advice you’ve received? by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati

Answer by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati:

Forget the phrases could have/should have

Here’s a discussion between me and my friend

CONTEXT: I scored 191 out of 276 (class XI JEE objective practice test) and from the scores of other people, statistically a score above 200 turned out to be good.

Me: I have committed some very silly calculation mistakes in Maths, some interpretation mistakes in Physics or else I could have easily scored more than 200. What’s your score?

He: I scored 211.

Me: Congrats! Most of the questions I lost are so easy that anyone can solve them. If those silly questions weren’t gone wrong …[ I RECOUNTED]… my marks should have been 214.

He:There is no such thing as could have/should have. You just didn’t score. Do you think I haven’t lost marks because of questions like that? Do you think the top scorers haven’t lost marks on similar lines? Everyone has their own weak spots.”

I thought that guy was just rude then. After half a year I saw myself not improving, committing similar or some new kind of mistakes in every exam. Every time I satisfied myself with a cock-and-bull story.

I understood that I was losing not because of the situation/bad luck but because of my actions. I realised I just didn’t do what it takes to get better. Then it was clear to me that I was committing a similar mistake in many situations of my life.

Stop wasting time telling yourself/others about what could have happened If you have done things differently. It doesn’t take you any where. Instead start working on what it takes to get what you want.

-Hem

What is the best advice you’ve received?

What’s your recent happiest moment?

What’s your recent happiest moment? by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati

Answer by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati:

This is one of those underrated happiest moments you don’t understand unless you have been craving for it for a long time.

Being able to do what you love, at any moment, is the ultimate luxury one can have in life.

Waking up everyday morning without any worries of approaching deadlines, a schedule to abide by or some promises to keep is a bliss most people cannot afford.

Every time I come home for a semester break I always keep a plan for the vacation. The plan usually include developing new habits (waking up early …), reading books, going to gym, researching new technologies pertaining to my profession, learning new skills (like piano etc.,).

I end up not doing anything wholeheartedly.

However, this time, when I returned home after last semester I didn’t have anything in mind. I am just free. Free from all the clutches.

I read a book for couple of hours, when I get tired I move on to writing answers on Quora, later going outside to meet some friends, then to watching a few episodes of F.R.I.E.N.D.S etc., I don’t feel the days are repetitive anymore. I just do what I want to do instead of what I have to do. Realization of this luxury is my recent happiest moment.

-Hem

What’s your recent happiest moment?

What is your most powerful tip?

What is your most powerful tip? by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati

Answer by Hemanth Kumar Tirupati:

  • Always take that extra mile to differentiate yourself from mediocrity.
    • Usually that one extra mile is the hardest and most people give up.
  • Make Success or Failure a by-product of something bigger.
    • There is more to a deed than the result. It’s the efforts you put in that prove to be useful in long run.
  • Failure is few errors in judgement repeated everyday.
    • Stop giving slack to yourself for everything. Give up self pity.
  • Forget the phrases could have/should have.
    • Stop wasting time telling yourself/others about what could have happened if you have done things differently. Start working on what it takes to get what you want.
  • Never leave important decisions in your life to others.
    • You regret less when the things go otherwise.
  • Everyone is unique in their own ways. It’s the uniqueness that makes you irreplaceable.
    • Don’t lose what makes you ‘you’ by following the herd.
  • Comparison does more harm than good.
    • It loosens your focus. You cease to enjoy what you do caught up in the competition. Then the worst thing happens – you start emulation.
  • Take calculated risks. If you always play a safe game you are safe from both extremities – Pinnacle or Nadir.
    • Mediocrity is boring. Have the courage to take the less explored paths.
  • Idleness is like an ocean. Never let your mind get lost in it. Always keep yourself busy.
    • Procrastination is the symptom. Idleness is the disease. Treat the disease not symptoms.
  • Someone’s belief in you is a luxury not everyone afford. Deal with it by believing in yourself.
    • If you think it through, it’s not essential either. All that matter is the picture you have about yourself in your mind.
  • If you are going through a tough time achieving something, keep going.
    • Because in the end you will have an inspirational story to tell

-Hem

What is your most powerful tip?